Whatever age you are, and whatever point in your life you find yourself, dating can feel like it’s a minefield. As you reach your “mature” years, it can feel even scarier, as perhaps you have been out of the dating game for a while, or perhaps you might feel that you have baggage. Being self deprecating is common human behaviour and you aren’t the first person to feel like that and you won’t be the last. At the end of the day there is no perfect person, there is only someone perfect for you. The person who is perfect for you and for whom you are perfect will not mind your flaws, or baggage or anything else that is worrying you. They will love you for you!
Over 50s dating doesn’t need to be scary or overwhelming. It might take a while to remember what you used to love about dating and the social scene, but it will come back to you and once you get over the majority of your nerves (a little bit of nerves on a date is normal and don’t forget that) you can enjoy meeting new people and trying new activities.
Whatvever your age, dating does have its risks and you need to ensure that you go into online dating or dating “in real life” with your eyes wide open and with your head screwed on. Scammers work well because they know what people want to hear and they prey on it. You need to use discernment and wisdom. This applies to online dates as well as people you meet out and about in a day to day basis – it’s not just online people who get scammed, people will lie or mislead people for financial reasons or even visas all the time.
Whether you make that new connection in tħe real world or the online one, here’s some top tips to make that date go as smoothly as possible.
- Don’t put all your eggs in one basket – no matter how great things have been going online or over the phone, meeting in person is very different, so don’t pin all your hopes on one meeting. You are putting pressure on yourself and your date and are almost certainly setting yourself up for failure.
- Meet in a public place close to good transport links. You should not be being picked up or picking up anyone else. Meet in a well lit place close to places you can go to if you feel uncomfortable or want to get away.
- Ensure at least one person knows who you are meeting and where you are going. Have a set time that you will check in with them by and if they don’t hear they will give you a call. Hopefully it is because the date is going so well and you just lost track of time, but just in case, that emergency contact is essential.
- Remember that no one is perfect – don’t expect your date to be, and they won’t be expecting you to be either.
- Take a deep breath, a drink if you need one (but not too many) and try to have fun!